The Science of Love

science of love

What is the science of love? What if we could understand attraction and love better? Dr. Liat Yakir explains it all on the podcast!

—

Want to learn about the science of love? My podcast guest, Dr. Liat Yakir is a biologist, author, and lecturer specializing in the biology of emotions. She holds advanced degrees in genetics and hormone research from the Weizmann Institute of Science.  Her new bestselling book, “A Brief History of Love,” has been translated into multiple languages. Dr. Yakir participated as an expert in the Israeli version of the reality show ‘Married at First Sight’. She also hosts a popular podcast – BrainStory.

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • The biological definition of love
  • What attracts us
  • Why desire and passion decline in a long term-relationship
  • Insights from biology to maintain long-term relationships
  • The scientific prescription for love

EP 616: Dr. Liat Yakir – The Science of Love

Your book is called A Brief History of Love. Tell us the brief history of your own love life and why you wrote this book.

I’m divorced twice and have a history of poor choices. That’s what inspired me to write this book. I wanted to understand our choices and to understand myself. I missed the red flags. I wasn’t attracted to the right people. I chose my current partner from the prefrontal cortex, not the limbic system. It took a year-and-a-half for the attraction to grow. He was a good friend. I began to notice that I was looking forward to his calls and emails. We had bonded intellectually. When you understand why you’re wired this way to search for the alpha male, you can make better choices.

What is love according to biology?

It’s oxytocin. There’s adaptiveness and survival in biology. We seek patterns that are familiar to our brain. Our nervous system is wired early in life for love and relationships.

What attracts us and why?

We are attracted to alpha for safety. Our attraction is also impacted by how we grew up and our attachment style. 90 percent of our choices are made by emotions.

Why do desire and passion decline in a long term-relationship? 

This is due to the Coolidge effect, that we get satiated sexually over time if we don’t take breaks.

How can we use insights from biology to maintain long-term relationships? 

Testosterone likes novelty. It goes up fast and down fast if there isn’t a true bond. If you have sex too early, postpone sex and let oxytocin lead the way. Have deeper conversations. Be curious.

What are your final words of advice for anyone who wants to go on their last first date?

Be curious about humans. Every person has a story and their own operating system. Don’t bring your old list for relationshopping. There is no ‘the one’. Select someone with the right traits. Assess how you feel with the person you’re with. Play games (don’t be too easy to get or show too much interest right away), because our brains assess accessibility as a weakness that someone is not good for you. Be secure and increase your self esteem. Be aligned with yourself. Your satisfaction with life determines the satisfaction you have in relationships.

Connect with Liat

Website: http://en.liatyakir.com 

IG https://www.instagram.com/dr_liatyakir/ 

FB https://www.facebook.com/liatyakir5976 

Brief History of Love Book https://amzn.to/3VEFoiR 

 Use coupon lastfirstdate for 15% off of Dr. Yakir’s course about finding and maintaining love https://en.liatyakir.com/courses/ 

Watch this episode on YouTube

Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast here.

Apply to get FREE coaching on the podcast: https://bit.ly/LFDradiocoaching 

If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to finally find love, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute love breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application

Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate

Get a copy of Sandy’s books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love and Choice Points in Dating; Empowering Women to Make Healthier Decisions in Love.



from Last First Date https://ift.tt/S4YKIbi

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

10 “Deep Penetration” Positions for More Intense & Fulfilling Sex

Image
Discover The Best Positions for Deeper & More Pleasurable Sex–And How to Get as Deep as Possible (Regardless of Your Size)… Click Here to Discover 5 All-Natural Foods That Get You Hard-As-Steel FAST (And Allow You to F**k Her Deeper Than Ever Before)… Sex is great–there's no denying that. And one thing that makes sex great is that there are so many different positions you can experiment with. However, while most men tend to go for the standard missionary and doggie style during sex… what if you really want to go deep inside her, and give her more intense pleasure? BRAND-NEW: This “Raging Bull Secret” That Helps You Last Longer In Bed Is Almost Sold Out (Click Here to Get It!) The truth is, many women love this kind of deep penetration… though few guys know how to do it correctly. So that's what I want to talk about today. I'll show you 5 “deep penetration” positions for beginners, 5 “deep penetration” positions for more advanced guys… plus: my favorite “deep ...
Read more

If you want to get more information about honeymoon then you should choose our Gurugram escort agency

Image
 Very few people will explain about honeymoon in detail. Most people take the name of honeymoon but they hardly know about honeymoon. Honeymoon is celebrated after marriage when you bring a bride to your home after getting married, after that you go to have a honeymoon with the same bride. Honeymoon is called as if you have just got married and have a wife and you have been with her for some time, so we call it honeymoon. There are many things about honeymoon in every person's mind, but not all people are able to take full advantage of honeymoon because they do not know much about honeymoon. Our Gurugram escorts agency is a boon for those who do not know much about honeymoon. We inform you about our honeymoon through our Gurugram escort agency. Our Gurugram Call Girl gives you a demo class. Our Gurugram call girl will tell you where you should go and not go on a honeymoon. Also, our Gurugram call girls will also explain how you should treat your wife and take care of her wishes. ...
Read more

Take a honeymoon feeling with a Gurugram call girl without getting married

Image
Men who want to experience honeymoon come to our Gurugram escort agency Our Gurugram escorts agency is famous for giving new experiences to men in Gurugram. The men of our agency always get new experiences. Men always choose our escorts agency as they get some new experience. Our new service is for men who are not married and need an experience to understand how to make their life happier with their wife after marriage. Why You Should Have Experience Before Getting Married Sometimes it happens that we get married without any experience and later we do not understand why our wife is not happy with us, we try our best but we are not able to make our wife happy. And we never understand why this is happening, we never get the exact reason and our marital life is not happy, for such men our Gurugram escort agency has started honeymoon escorts. We say that you should contact our escorts agency before marriage so that you do not have to face such problems that your wife is not happy with you...
Read more