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Narcissist or Avoidant? 5 Ways to Tell the Difference

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Are they a narcissist or avoidant? Here are five ways to tell the difference in the early stages of dating after 40. — In the early stages of dating, it can be confusing when someone pulls away, sends mixed signals, or struggles with emotional closeness. Two patterns that often get mistaken for each other are narcissism and avoidant attachment. Both can involve distance and inconsistency, but the underlying motivations are very different. Understanding the difference matters. An avoidant person may struggle with vulnerability but still care deeply about you. A narcissist, on the other hand, tends to center the relationship around their own needs and ego. Here are five ways to tell the difference. Narcissist or Avoidant? 5 Ways to Tell the Difference 1. How Do They Respond to Your Needs ? An avoidant partner may feel overwhelmed by emotional needs and temporarily pull back. But when they’re calm again, they often show some concern for how you feel. An emotionally intelligen...
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It’s Never too Late to Rewrite Your Happily Ever After

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It’s never too late to rewrite your happily ever after. Author, Laurie Collister shares her inspiring story on the podcast. — Laurie Collister is living proof you can rewrite your happily ever after. She is a counselor, journalist, and debut memoirist. After graduating from Kenyon College, she worked as a litigation paralegal, market analyst, investigative journalist, and, most recently, as a counselor on LA’s skid row. In this checkerboard of professions, she learned how to harvest the hidden – key to penning A Different Kind of Vow: Rewriting My Happily After, due out April 7, 2026, as well as The Last Home on the Left, about her fourteen years working on skid row, to be published in May 2027. Laurie lives with her extended family and dog Bella on a cul-de-sac in Los Angeles. In this episode: What is the “other kind of vow”? Learning about love in your 30s and 40s How journaling can change your life EP 704: Laurie Collister – Rewriting Your Happily Ever After Highlights...
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Long-Distance Dating: 5 Reasons to Date Someone a Distance Away

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Have you considered long-distance dating? Your best match might live a distance away, and you don’t want to miss out! — When it comes to dating, especially later in life, many people default to one rule: “keep it local.” It makes sense. You want ease, consistency, and someone who fits neatly into your existing life. But here’s the problem: keeping it local can prevent you from meeting your match. Often, expanding your distance helps you meet that special person, and with the right connection, the distance can be overcome. If you’ve been hesitant to explore a connection with someone who doesn’t live nearby, here are five reasons to reconsider. Long-Distance Dating: 5 Reasons to Date Someone a Distance Away 1. Distance Forces Intention When someone lives across town, it’s easy to fall into casual patterns. Last-minute plans. Half-hearted effort. Seeing each other out of convenience rather than desire. Distance changes that. You can’t just “swing by.” You have to plan. You ha...
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Celebrating Those Who Are Happily Single

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There are many people who are happily single. We celebrate the single lifestyle in this episode! — Dr. Bella DePaulo is the leading expert on single life, and her TEDx talk on the topic now has more than 1.6 million views. She received her PhD from Harvard, spent two decades as a psychology professor at the University of Virginia, and is an academic affiliate at UC Santa Barbara. She is the author of SINGLE AT HEART. In this episode: The definition of “single at heart” Why people who are single at heart love being single so much Doesn’t everyone want to have a romantic partner?  The positive benefits of embracing a single life  Reactions to the Single at Heart book EP 703: Dr. Bella DePaulo – Celebrating Those Who Are Happily Single  What does “single at heart” mean? We love our single lives. We are happy and flourishing because we’re single. I dated in the past, and I don’t have any horror stories. And when each relationship ended, I was so happy to get ...
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5 Texts to Send When Someone Is Breadcrumbing

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When someone you’re dating is breadcrumbing you, do you get upset or confused? Take back your power and send one of these 5 texts. — Breadcrumbing can be one of the most confusing experiences in dating, especially after 40. It’s just enough attention to keep you interested, but never enough to build anything real. A random “thinking of you” text. A last-minute check-in. A sprinkle of charm with zero follow-through. And if you’re not careful, you can find yourself emotionally invested in something that isn’t actually going anywhere. The key isn’t to overanalyze their behavior. It’s to respond in a way that reflects your clarity, confidence, and standards. Here are five texts you can send when someone is breadcrumbing you, each one designed to put you back in your power. 5 Texts to Send When Someone Is Breadcrumbing 1. The Clarity Text “I’ve enjoyed connecting with you, but I’m looking for something more consistent. Let me know if that’s something you’re open to.” This tex...
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Why Polarity is the Secret to Attraction 

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What is polarity, and why does Mat Boggs say it’s the secret to attraction? Here are some of the mistakes you might be making that are keeping you from love. — Mat Boggs says polarity is the secret to attraction. He is a best-selling author, relationship coach, and co-founder of the Brave Thinking Institute’s Love & Relationship Division. For nearly two decades, he has helped women worldwide attract high-quality men and lasting love. He’s appeared on The Today Show, CNN, Headline News, Oprah & Friends, and The Hallmark Channel. His book, Cracking The Man Code, reveals how men think, love, and communicate. In this episode: The biggest polarity mistake smart, successful women make What women get wrong about feminine energy Why doing more in dating and relationships sabotages your love life The first internal shift to make if you’re a planner and emotional leader in relationships A man’s deepest desire EP 701: Mat Boggs – Why Polarity is the Secret to Attraction...
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5 Things a Man WON’T Do If He’s Serious About You

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When you’re dating, how do you know if he’s serious about you? Here are five things a man would not do if he wants to develop a relationship. — When a man is truly serious about you, his actions create clarity, not confusion. You don’t have to decode him or convince yourself to “be patient” while your needs go unmet. Here are five things a man WON’T do when he’s genuinely invested in building a relationship with you. 5 Things a Man WON’T Do If He’s Serious About You 1. He won’t leave you guessing about how he feels A man who is serious about you doesn’t hide behind ambiguity. He doesn’t give you just enough interest to keep you hooked. You’ll feel his interest in how he communicates, how he shows up, and how he follows through. You won’t find yourself constantly wondering where you stand. You may still have moments of fear or vulnerability, which is part of being human and beginning a new connection with someone. But overall, there is a sense of emotional steadiness. His ...
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