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How to Set Up Dates So You Don’t Feel Anxious 

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How do you set up dates so you feel more confident and less anxious? Avoid last minute anxiety and check-ins with this method. — Nothing spikes anxiety like a first or second date that hasn’t been reconfirmed. You’re standing in your kitchen the night before, phone in hand, trying not to “seem needy,” while your brain is already rehearsing what you’ll say if he cancels. Dating after 50 can feel especially vulnerable. We don’t want to waste time. We don’t want to look foolish. And we definitely don’t want to relive the uncertainty we tolerated in our twenties. Here are five ways to set up early dates so you’re not spiraling the day before. How to Set Up Early Dates So You Don’t Feel Anxious 1. Make the Plan Clear the First Time Anxiety thrives in vagueness. “Let’s do dinner sometime” is not a plan. “Maybe Friday?” is not a plan. A plan is: Friday at 7 pm at The Olive Bistro. If he suggests something ambiguous, you can gently move it toward clarity: “That sounds ...
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Debunking the Worst Relationship Advice (and what to do instead) 

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What’s the worst relationship advice you’ve ever heard? Let’s debunk that bad advice and replace it with what really works in love. — What’s the best and worst relationship advice? Find out on the podcast with Monica Tanner, a Relationship Coach and host of the Secrets of Happily Ever After podcast. She transforms marriages with simple communication, connection, conflict resolution and commitment strategies. Her mission is to lower the divorce rate and improve marital satisfaction. Through her engaging podcast, new Amazon Best-Selling book, Bad Marriage Advice, vibrant social media community, and couple’s coaching practice, Monica’s expert guidance has impacted thousands of couples, by helping them ditch resentment and roommate syndrome and get back to living their happily ever after love story. In this episode: The worst relationship advice The top 3 secrets to happily ever after The cure for “Roommate Syndrome” EP 699: Monica Tanner – Debunking the Worst Relationship Adv...
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Five Reasons Storytelling in Dating Matters More Than You Think

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Storytelling in dating is an important skill to master. We connect and deepen relationships through story. Learn how to tell better stories. — If dating has ever left you feeling misunderstood, overlooked, or even invisible, it’s probably not be about your looks or how smart and accomplished you are. It’s probably about how you share your stories. We are wired for story. Long before dating apps and personality quizzes, humans connected by sharing experiences, meaning, and emotion. Yet somewhere along the way, dating became a performance of facts instead of a sharing of depth. That’s why I created my dating storytelling workshop, Say It Your Way. It’s designed to help you communicate who you really are, without overexplaining, oversharing, or shrinking yourself to fit someone else’s expectations. Here are five reasons storytelling in dating truly matters. 1. Stories reveal your values without you having to list them Anyone can say they value honesty, growth, or kindness. But ...
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How to Rebuild Trust When a Relationship Hits Rock Bottom 

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How can a couple rebuild trust after betrayal or any trauma? When a relationship hits rock bottom, is there hope? Find out on this podcast. — How can you rebuild trust when a relationship has hit rock bottom? My podcast guests, Joanna and Matthew Raabsmith, have lived to tell the tale. They are sought-after relationship experts, speakers, and authors who help high-achieving couples rebuild trust and create deeply connected relationships after betrayal. They co-lead The Raabsmith Team, a coaching collective offering transformative coaching, programs and community support. In this episode: How to rebuild trust and connection after infidelity or trauma when you feel hopeless How couples misunderstand how to begin healing after hitting rock bottom What is meaningful honesty in relationships? EP 698: Joanna and Matthew Raabsmith – How to Rebuild Trust When a Relationship Hits Rock Bottom  For couples who feel hopeless right now, what are some practical ways for them to sta...
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The Psychology of Why Aloof People Are More Attractive

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Why are we attracted to aloof people? These five helpful tips backed by psychology will help you understand this dynamic. — Have you ever noticed this frustrating pattern? The people who text back immediately, show genuine interest, and are emotionally available often feel… less exciting. Meanwhile, the ones who are a little distant, harder to read, or slow to respond make our heart beat faster. You’re not imagining it. There are real psychological reasons why aloof people can feel more attractive, especially in dating. And understanding why this happens can help you make more conscious, empowered choices instead of getting pulled into old dynamics. Let’s break it down. 5 Reasons Why Aloof People Are More Attractive 1. Our Brains Love What They Can’t Fully Have Humans are wired to want what feels just out of reach. When someone is aloof, they create a sense of scarcity. Their attention feels limited. Their approval feels earned. That triggers our brain’s reward system, ...
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Dating Advice for Men: 3 Proven Steps to Boost Confidence, Attract Women & Build Real Connections

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Dating can be a complex and intimidating endeavor for many men. From navigating conversations to managing nerves, the process often feels like a high-stakes balancing act. Yet, research and psychological studies consistently reveal that confidence, effective communication, and genuine connection are the cornerstones of romantic success. Whether you’re new to dating or looking to rekindle your social spark, mastering these three areas can transform your approach and outcomes. In this article, we break down three proven strategies to help men build unshakable confidence, master authentic communication, and excel from the first date onward. 1. Build Unshakable Confidence: The Foundation of Attraction Confidence is not about being perfect or having all the answers—it’s about self-assurance in your values, goals, and interactions. Studies from the  Journal of Personality and Social Psychology  show that confident individuals are perceived as more attractive, competent, and trus...
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Love After 50: From First Date to Engagement

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How do you become more emotionally available in dating? In this episode, we discuss some simple steps you can take today. — Listen to the story of Kat and Shawn, a couple who met in their mid-50s. I worked with Kat before, during, and after she met Shawn, and they are a living example of how to find love after 50 and make the relationship work. They are engaged, living together, and navigating every up and down that comes with relationships later in life. In this episode: What makes a relationship after 50 work well How to design healthy partnership Obstacles that come up in relationships and how to work through them How to know if they’re the right one for you EP 697: Kat and Shawn – Falling in Love After 50, The Journey From First Date to Engagement From Kat and Shawn “We met online in our mid-50s, and the chemistry and compatibility were amazing from the start. We both value good communication and personal and relational growth. When we find ourselves at a crossroads...
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