4 Ways to Become Detached in Dating (And Why It Makes You More Attractive)
Being detached in dating isn’t about being cold. It’s about detaching from outcomes rather than feelings. Here are 4 reasons to detach. — Have you ever caught yourself refreshing your phone while waiting for him to text you back? Replaying a date over and over, trying to figure out what he meant by something he said? Changing who you are, even just a little, to make someone like you more? If you have, you’re not alone and there’s nothing wrong with you. You’re just attached to outcomes in a way that works against you. Relationship coach Sabrina Alexis Bendory wrote Detached: How to Let Go, Heal, and Become Irresistible to address this. Her central message is that detachment in dating has nothing to do with being cold or playing games. It’s the inner stability that comes from building self-worth, the ability to care deeply about someone without losing yourself, and to stop chasing approval. When you’re detached in dating, yo...