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The How-To Guide on Dating After Divorce

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Dating after divorce? My podcast guest, Sade Curry, has great tips on how to find love again after your relationship ends. — If you’re dating after divorce, you’ll want to listen to this episode! My guest, Sade Curry, is a Dating Coach for Divorced Women and host of the Dating after Divorce podcast. She is certified in trauma coaching, feminist coaching, and life and relationship coaching and teaches women strategies for going through divorce with emotional balance, healing, rebuilding, and finding love again. Sade is married to her second husband Kent Curry and they live in St. Louis, Missouri. In this episode of Last First Date Radio: Why the modern dating scene creates so much anxiety and overwhelm Some of the unique challenges divorced women face when dating What it means to Date with your Core Values Tips for creating a dating profile that attracts a compatible partner Why it’s important to look for Green Flags instead of Red Flags EP 594: Sade Curry – The How-To Gu...

Why We Repeat Dysfunctional Relationship Patterns

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If you have repeated dysfunctional relationship patterns, this video is for you. You’ll learn why you repeat them and how to stop! — Do you repeat dysfunctional relationship patterns over and over, even though they make you feel terrible? It doesn’t seem to make sense to repeat a pattern that leaves you frustrated and hurt. Why would you want to be in a relationship with someone who’s toxic to you? In this video, I share four reasons why we repeat destructive relationship patterns and five ways to break this pattern and have healthy relationships.  4 reasons why we repeat destructive patterns It’s familiar.  We repeat behaviors because they are familiar to us, whether from childhood or any other past trauma. We know what to expect from them. And that’s why we will choose someone who’s not good for us, because the unknown is scarier. We learned it growing up.  In childhood, we learn our core beliefs, coping skills, and behavior patterns that we used to cope with...

How to Break Free of One-Sided Relationships

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Learn how to break free of one-sided relationships in this podcast episode with relationship coach, Trevor Justice. — Trevor Justice is a relationship coach who specializes in anxious attachment relationship skills, as well as the author of Attract Love and Respect: 5 Ways to Be Valued in Your Relationships. He empowers people-pleasing women and “nice guys” to come first for a change, leaving frustration and disappointment behind. In this episode of Last First Date Radio: Why common dating advice like “Play it cool” and “Let them set the pace” is often wrong What anxiously attached people should never say when they hear from a slow-to-reply partner How to evoke empathy when standing up for yourself, instead of upsetting your partner When pleasing and accommodating your partner can backfire How to break free of one-sided relationships and be valued instead of taken for granted EP 593: Trevor Justice – How to Break Free of One-Sided Relationships Last First Date R...

Debunking the Five Love Languages

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Are the five love languages supported by science? New research debunks the love languages and suggests they might even be harmful. — A recent article published in the journal Current Directions in Psychological Science concluded that the five Love Languages are not supported by empirical scientific evidence. Do love languages really matter? Or are they actually harmful? Debunking the Five Love Languages Thirty years ago, Baptist priest, Gary Chapman wrote The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts . This book has sold more than 20 million copies in several languages. As a dating and relationship coach, I have taught about the love languages as a way to better understand how we give and receive love. So, why are scientists skeptical now? First, let’s look at what the love languages are… What are the five love languages? 1. Words of affirmation (giving compliments, saying kind things to each other) 2. Gifts (giving presents big or small) 3. Acts of service (helpin...

Gaslighting Recovery For Women

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Gaslighting recovery is possible for women who have experienced this type of emotional abuse and manipulation. Learn more here. — Dr. Amelia Kelley is a trauma-informed therapist, author, podcaster and researcher. Her specialties include; Art therapy, Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR and Brainspotting as well as being a certified meditation and Yoga instructor. Her work focuses on women’s issues, empowering survivors of abuse and relationship trauma, Highly Sensitive Persons, motivation, healthy living, and adult ADHD. She’s also the author of the new book, Gaslighting Recovery for Women: The Complete Guide to Recognizing Manipulation and Achieving Freedom from Emotional Abuse.   In this episode of Last First Date Radio: Signs that you’re experiencing gaslighting Signs that it’s NOT gaslighting  Tools to effect change when gaslighting and other manipulative tactics are at play in a relationship How to recover from gaslighting EP 592: Dr. Amelia Kelley – Gaslig...

5 Online Dating Myths That Are Keeping You Single 

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Chances are these online dating myths are getting in the way of you meeting your match. Which of these myths do you believe are true? — Even though it’s been around since 1995, online dating still gets a bad rap. That’s largely because of the myths and misconceptions people have about dating online. Do any of the following five online dating myths sound familiar? If so, I recommend you let go of these old beliefs, and you might just find your person on a dating site in the near future! 5 Online Dating Myths  1. Online dating is a last resort (and embarrassing). Many people are still embarrassed to say they met their match online, which is just wrong! This decades old method of finding love has been so successful, it should be your first resort, not your last. 2. It’s a numbers game. While finding a good match can take time, you don’t need to go on thousands of dates to find them. In fact, I don’t recommend just going out with anyone who asks you out. That’s exhausting...

The Importance of Vulnerability

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In this interview with Iris Benrubi, I share the importance of vulnerability in dating and relationships so you can love more deeply. — Iris Benrubi , a renowned dating and relationship coach and therapist, interviewed me for one of her summits about the importance of vulnerability. I love this topic so much, I did a TEDx talk about it. You can watch it here . I loved our conversation so much, I created a podcast episode so more of you could hear it. In this episode of Last First Date Radio: Why I used the metaphor of the Tootsie Pop to represent vulnerability Why we choose the wrong men  How to begin to shed the guards around your heart and become more vulnerable How to identify your core needs and speak up about them early on A powerful exercise to help you let go of past pain Important questions to ask yourself while dating EP 591: The Importance of Vulnerability – An Interview With Iris Benrubi Last First Date Radio Dating and relationships don’t have...

Online Dating Success Tips: 5 Red Flags and 5 Green Flags

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These online dating success tips will help you identify 5 red flags and 5 green flags so you stay safe and find love. — If you want online dating success, there’s a lot you can do; write a more effective profile, be crystal clear on what you’re looking for, message more effectively to name a few. To really improve your experience, you need to know how to spot online dating red flags early on. Here’s my advice on the most common online dating red and green flags – how to recognize them early on, and what to do if you find them. Online Dating Success Tips: 5 Red Flags and 5 Green Flags 5 Red Flags 1. Overtly sexual/immediate use of terms of endearment  2. Inconsistent communication 3. No photo, photos all look different, photos too perfect 4. No effort to meet or talk on the phone 5. Negativity/sexism/racism/anger in their profile If your online dating match has one or more of these red flags, tread carefully. If they have several, it’s time to move on. 5 Green Fla...

Boundaries Aren’t Bitchy – An Interview With Cami Elen

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Boundaries aren’t bitchy, even though many people think they are. Setting boundaries early on in dating is critical. Here’s how. — Several years ago, I was interviewed by Cami Elen about why boundaries aren’t bitchy. In this private summit, I shared vulnerably about why I became a dating and love coach, why boundaries are beautiful and how I help women set clear boundaries from the very start. This conversation was so important, I decided to share it in a podcast episode. In this episode of Last First Date Radio: The number one mistake women make at the start of dating How to stop texting and meet someone for a first date Standards and boundaries to set early on How to know when to have sex in a new relationship What’s the pink velvet rope in dating My five step method to set clear boundaries in dating An exercise to help you identify your core needs in dating EP 590: Boundaries Aren’t Bitchy – An Interview With Cami Elen Last First Date Radio Dating an...