The 5 Dating Mistakes That Are Keeping You Single

These 5 dating mistakes could be keeping you single. Watch the video to learn how turn those mistakes around to find your person.

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Many of us make dating mistakes without even realizing it. As a dating and relationship coach, I love helping people find lasting love by making the invisible mistakes visible. That’s why I’m sharing the top five dating mistakes that are keeping you single, and how to turn them around to find your person and go on your last first date!

The 5 Dating Mistakes That Are Keeping You Single

Mistake #1. Putting Too Much Pressure on the Outcome

One of the most common mistakes people make when dating is putting too much pressure on themselves or the other person to make the relationship work. This can lead to feelings of anxiety, desperation, and insecurity, which can ultimately sabotage the connection.

Turnaround: Focus on being present on the date and getting curious about the person in front of you. Whatever the outcome, you’ll learn something new, make a connection, and practice your dating and communication skills.

Mistake #2. Ignoring Red Flags

Whether your date has a victim mindset, is rude to the waitstaff, talks about himself the entire date and never asks you anything, or you notice you have incompatible values, it’s important to pay attention to these signs rather than ignoring them, especially if you feel a physical connection with him. Also, make sure you’re not finding red flags that might be yellow flags, warning signs that need to be addressed early on.

Turnaround: Don’t let chemistry blind you to deal breakers. If there are concerns, get curious and talk about them right away. You’ll gain the clarity you need to stay or go.

Mistake #3. Planning a Future Before There’s a Present

When you finally feel a connection with someone, It’s easy to get swept up in the excitement and possibilities of a new relationship and start imagining a future together before you really know each other. This can lead to unrealistic expectations and disappointment if things don’t progress as quickly or smoothly as you’d hoped.

Turnaround: Allow the relationship to develop and progress as slowly as you need it to. Pay attention to any red flags that show up and address them early on. You don’t know someone well until you’ve seen them on good days AND bad. Watch how they handle stress and make big decisions. That will tell you a lot about their character.

Mistake #4. Being Too Picky About the Wrong Things

While it’s important to have standards and know what you want in a partner, being overly picky about the wrong things can prevent you from forming meaningful connections. Some examples of overly picky are: only dating men who are six feet and over, have an ivy league education or a PhD. Those are not character traits.

Turnaround: Make sure your must-have list is realistic, and narrow it down to the top five. Focus on character, not charisma. If they have your must-haves and no deal breakers but you don’t feel instant chemistry, that’s a good thing. It will help you stay open-minded and give people a chance, especially if they’re not your ‘type’. Next time you get the ick over something minor, check yourself and see if this is really a dealbreaker.

Mistake #5. Neglecting Your Own Needs

One of the biggest mistakes people make is not understanding and communicating their own standards and needs when dating. This is what causes us to stay in undefined situationships or unfulfilling relationships.

Turnaround: Defining and communicating your standards and needs early on allows you to gauge if the person you’re dating is a good fit for you. And if they’re not? It’s time to find someone who is!

Which of these five mistakes have you made in the past, and which of them will you STOP making so you can go on your last first date?

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