How to Stop Getting Stood Up in Dating

Tired of being stood up in dating? Learn how to set clear expectations, confirm plans with confidence, and attract people who show up.

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A few years ago, I spent a Sunday afternoon all dressed and ready for my first date with a hot guy with a sexy accent from Liverpool.  Hair done, cute outfit on, butterflies in my stomach, I waited for his call before leaving for the restaurant. We had texted earlier in the week about meeting for brunch, but as the clock ticked past the meeting time, there was no call, no message… nothing.

At first, I kept checking my phone. Maybe he was running late? Maybe traffic? After 30 minutes, I called and it went straight to voicemail. I realized what had happened. I’d been stood up, and he blocked me!

I was mortified at first. But then, I picked myself up and went for a walk. An hour later, I had clarity. I would figure out how to not be stood up again. Since then, I’ve learned how to set things up clearly, calmly, and confidently so there’s no confusion and no wasted mascara. I’m sharing that valuable information with you in this article and video.

Here’s how you can prevent getting stood up in dating!

How to Stop Getting Stood Up in Dating

1. Lock in the Details Early

When you set the date, confirm the time and location. Once that’s agreed upon, you officially have a date. No need for extra check-ins or nervous “just confirming” messages. This sets the tone that you’re confident, organized, and expect follow-through.

2. If You Like a Day-Before Confirmation, Say So

If you feel more comfortable with a quick confirmation text, mention that when you set the date. For example: “I’d love a quick text the day before to confirm — does that work for you?”

That way, you’ve communicated your preference clearly, without sounding needy.

3. If It Was Finalized the Day Before or the Day Of, Just Go on the Date!

When the plan is confirmed within 24-hours of the date, you don’t need to double-check. Just show up and enjoy yourself.

4. When to Send a Confident Confirmation

If the date was arranged several days in advance, it’s fine to send a friendly message the day before: “Looking forward to seeing you tomorrow!”

Avoid sending the “Are we still on?” text. It sounds insecure and disempowering.

5. Don’t Over-Text Before the Date

A little banter before meeting is great, but too much texting can fizzle the spark or create a false sense of connection. Once the plan is made, save your best stories for when you meet in person.

6. Show Confidence (and Courtesy)

If you haven’t heard from your date the day of the date but the plan was set, don’t assume it’s off. Show up unless told otherwise. Never ghost or cancel without notice. If something changes, send a polite, direct message. It’s respectful, confident, and classy.

Getting stood up isn’t just about bad luck. It’s about boundaries and communication. When you set the tone early and clearly, you attract more people who value your time and show up like mature adults.

Confidence is your best protection against flakes and your best filter for finding someone who’s genuinely interested in showing up for you.

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