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How Clutter Can Negatively Impact Your Dating Life

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If you have a lot of clutter in your home, it can hold you back from finding love. Here are five ways clutter affects your love life. — Did you know that clutter can negatively impact your dating life? It can cause stress, anxiety, and discourage romantic connections for many reasons. People who have a lot of clutter might be embarrassed to bring a date to their home. Clutter can also make it difficult to enjoy quality time together with your romantic partner. Here are five ways clutter might negatively impact your dating life and how to begin to heal. 5 ways clutter might negatively impact your dating life #1: Increased Stress and Anxiety: Living in a cluttered space can significantly increase stress levels, which can lead to frustration and resentment, especially if one partner doesn’t see the problem.  #2: Reduced Romantic Opportunities: Clutter can be a barrier to romance, as you might be hesitant to invite dates into a messy home.  #3: Less Quality Time...

What’s Your Conflict Management Style?

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Conflict management is difficult for most of us. In this episode, discover your conflict management style and how to do conflict better. — What’s your conflict management personality? Dr. John Eliot, PhD, co-wrote a book on this topic. He mentors executives and advises professional sports teams, coaches, and athletes on psychological principles for enhancing health, performance, and workplace culture. He has consulted for NASA, the US Olympic Committee, the Mayo Clinic, Sony, and Microsoft. Eliot has held professorial appointments at the University of Virginia, Stanford, Rice, SMU, and the Texas Medical Center, winning teaching awards at each. In this episode: Why John decided to focus his research on conflict personalities How our conflict responses are rooted in predictable patterns How we can predict behavior in high-pressure or emotionally charged situations How someone’s ‘Conflict’ personality changes between home and work Why it’s important to understand our triggers ...

Why We Repeat Toxic Patterns in Relationships

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Why do we tend to repeat toxic patterns in relationships and dating? Joan Childs has some insights you’ll want to hear! — Why do we tend to repeat toxic patterns in our relationships? My podcast guest, Joan Childs, is sharing her wisdom in this episode. She’s a renowned psychotherapist, author, and relationship expert with over 47 years of clinical experience. As a pioneer in Encounter-Centered Couples Therapy, Joan has dedicated her career to healing fractured relationships and guiding people toward self-actualization. Her therapeutic journey has included individual, couples, group, and family therapy, earning her certifications in transformative modalities such as EMDR, Hypnosis, and Inner Child Work. In this episode of Last First Date Radio: Why we repeat toxic patterns in relationships Common mistakes couples make and how to avoid them What to do when there’s a loss of intimacy in a relationship The biggest myths about love and relationships EP 649: Joan Childs – Why ...

What to Do When You Have More Money Than Your Boyfriend

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Do you have more money than your boyfriend? Watch this video for tips on how to work through financial disparities in dating. — When you have more money than your boyfriend, it can potentially lead to uncomfortable situations. Should you contribute a larger portion to shared expenses? What about travel? Do you have concerns about power dynamics, his feelings of insecurity, or either one of you becoming resentful of the other? This is a topic that comes up a lot in my coaching practice, which is why I’m sharing some of the key challenges and strategies for when you have more money than your boyfriend.  2 Key Challenges When You Have More Money than Your Boyfriend Challenge #1 – Power imbalance: A large financial gap can create a perceived power imbalance in the relationship. The partner with more money might feel like they have more control over decisions, and the partner with less money may feel disempowered. Challenge #2 – Potential insecurities: The partner with l...

How to Get a Second Date

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How do you get a second date when you’re interested in someone? My podcast guest, T. Joel Wade, has some excellent tips! — How do you get a second date? My podcast guest, T. Joel Wade, has some tips for you! He is a Presidential Professor of Psychology at Bucknell University. His research focuses on mate attraction, mate selection, mate expulsion, love, and relationships. He’s the author of numerous articles in social and evolutionary psychology journals, and his research has been covered in media outlets including the BBC, NPR, and CBC, and numerous national and international news magazines. In this episode of Last First Date Radio: Do the actions men and women use to get a second date differ, and if so why?  What are a few things people can say or do to get a second date?   How the actions men and women use to signal attraction to a potential mate differs EP 648: T. Joel Wade – How to Get a Second Date Do the actions men and women use to get a second date ...

How to Break Toxic Patterns in Dating

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How do you overcome toxic patterns in dating and relationships? Here are 5 signs of unhealthy patterns and how to break them. — Why do we repeat toxic patterns in dating and relationships? Why do we choose unavailable or abusive partners? The short answer is we seek what’s familiar to us. We’re drawn to people who remind us of our most unhealthy relationship with one or both of our caretakers growing up. It’s an unconscious attempt to heal our childhood wounds. Our rational mind doesn’t choose our toxic partners. That’s why it’s important to get support to rewire our brains for healthy relationships. In this video, I share five of the most common toxic patterns and how to begin to heal so you can go on your last first date! 5 Signs of toxic patterns in dating and relationships You don’t feel safe: You’re always editing what you say or do, afraid of what your partner would do or say if you were honest. You feel like you’ve lost yourself: When you’re with a toxic partner, th...

Getting Clear About What You Want in Dating

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Without clarity, how do you know what you want in dating? In this episode, learn how to clarify your dating wants and needs. — What if you could get clear about what you want in dating? My podcast guest, Tracey Gee, is the author of The Magic of Knowing What You Want . She’s a certified leadership coach and consultant and a sought-after speaker and facilitator nationwide. She helps people learn more about themselves and their unique sense of meaning and purpose. She feels honored to have worked with a breadth of incredible individuals and organizations, including UC Berkeley, the Miami Heat, and Coca-Cola, but her great ambition in life remains to pet as many dogs as possible. In this episode of Last First Date Radio: How to discover what you want in dating A practical exercise on uncovering your authentic desires in dating After you have clarity about what you want, what actions to take EP 647: Tracey Gee – Getting Clear About What You Want in Dating What inspired you to w...