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Dating After 50: How to Develop Secure Attachment and Build Deeper Connections

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Learn practical steps to develop secure attachment. Discover how to calm triggers, express needs, and choose healthier relationships. — If you’ve spent decades navigating relationships—marriages, partnerships, dating, or even long stretches of independence—you may have noticed certain patterns in how you connect. Maybe you get anxious when someone pulls away, or you shut down when things feel too close. These patterns aren’t about “what’s wrong with you”. They’re about attachment styles. The good news? Attachment style isn’t fixed. Even in midlife and beyond, you can slowly, gently rewire yourself toward secure attachment. It’s not a light switch. It’s a process. And it begins with how you relate to yourself . Here are five steps to develop secure attachment. How to Develop Secure Attachment and Build Deeper Connections 1. Notice Your Triggers With Compassion Pay attention to your body’s signals when you feel unsettled. Maybe your chest tightens when a call doesn’t come, o...
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7 Traits Quality Men Seek in a Woman (That Have Nothing to Do With Age or Looks)

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What are the traits quality men seek in a woman? Here are the top seven, and you might be surprised by what they are! — Let’s be honest — dating over 50 can feel like a trip through the Twilight Zone. You meet someone great, there’s chemistry, and then… poof. He disappears. Or worse, he sticks around but you’re carrying the emotional weight of the entire relationship. Here’s what you need to know: quality men — the ones who are emotionally available, kind, and ready for a real partnership — are not just looking for someone young, cute and clever (although we’ll take the compliments). They’re looking for a woman who brings emotional maturity, self-awareness, and depth to the table. If you’re wondering how to attract that kind of man, you’re in the right place. Here are seven powerful traits quality men seek in a woman — and yes, you can embody them all without losing yourself. 7 Traits Quality Men Seek in a Woman 1. She Doesn’t Plan a Future Before There’s a Present It’s ea...
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How to Balance Life and Love; Strategies for Success

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How can you balance life and love? Dr. Margaret Cochran gives us actionable techniques to create more balance in your life. — How do you balance life and love? That’s what we’re discussing today on the podcast with Dr. Margaret Cochran. She is a transpersonal psychologist, licensed clinical social worker, educator, author, and media personality with 25+ years of experience. She blends traditional, transpersonal, and energy psychology to help clients heal and thrive. Featured on BBC, CBS, NBC, and more, she’s known for her whole-person approach to wellness and hosting programs like Wisdom, Love and Magic. In this episode of Last First Date Radio: How to know when things are out of balance in a relationship Is balance really possible? How to balance life and love if you don’t have healthy examples in your life How to talk to your partner about balance Tips you can use to achieve balance between life and love EP 679: Dr. Margaret Cochran – How to Balance Life and Love; Stra...
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Hardballing in Dating: 5 Tips to Decide If It’s Right for You

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Curious about hardballing in dating? Discover the pros and cons of being upfront about what you want – without scaring off potential matches. — In the world of modern dating, a new buzzword has emerged: hardballing . It’s the practice of being upfront early on about what you want—whether that’s marriage, a long-term relationship, or no-strings-attached fun. For many people, hardballing feels refreshing after years of unclear signals and endless guessing games. But it can also backfire if done without tact. Here are five tips to help you navigate the pros and cons of hardballing so you can decide if it’s right for you. Hardballing in Dating: 5 Tips to Decide If It’s Right for You 1. Pro: Saves Time and Energy When you’re clear about what you want, you quickly weed out people who don’t align with your goals. That means fewer unproductive dates and less emotional burnout. If you’re dating with intention, especially later in life, this directness can feel empowering. Tip: Fr...
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How to Heal Trauma in Yourself and Your Relationship

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If you don’t heal trauma in yourself, you will carry it into every relationship. Listen to this episode to learn how to begin to heal. — How do you heal trauma in yourself and in your relationship? Tarah and E.J. Kerwin, founders of Relationship Renovation in Tucson, Arizona, help couples build stronger, healthier connections through therapy and online programs. They co-host the Relationship Renovation Podcast and a YouTube channel, sharing actionable tools rooted in intentional communication and empathy to support couples worldwide.   In this episode of Last First Date Radio: Subtle signs that past trauma is influencing someone’s current relationship, even if they feel they’ve ‘moved on’ from it How to define emotional safety in a relationship, and why is it the foundation for lasting connection? A few key tools from your Relationship Renovation Model that couples can use to navigate trauma-related triggers The very first mindset shift to start healing EP 678: T...
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Dating After 50: How to Let Go of the Fear of Getting Hurt Again

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Afraid of getting hurt again? Here’s how to release past heartbreak, rebuild trust, and open yourself to love again. — Are you afraid of getting hurt again? If you’ve experienced heartbreak (and who hasn’t?), it’s no wonder that opening your heart again can feel scary. Past breakups have a way of whispering, “Be careful. Don’t get hurt again.” Fear tries to protect us, but it can also keep us from the joy and connection we deeply crave. If you’re over 50, you’ve gathered wisdom, self-awareness, and resilience that your younger self didn’t yet have. Letting go of the fear of getting hurt again isn’t about being naïve. It’s about learning to trust yourself more than you fear what could go wrong. Here are five ways to begin. How to Let Go of the Fear of Getting Hurt Again 1. Acknowledge Past Pain — Don’t Bury It Fear is often a sign of unprocessed pain. Maybe a betrayal still stings, or a divorce left a mark on your sense of safety and trust. Instead of pushing it away, gent...
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Why We Fall For People We Can’t Have

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Many of us fall for people we can’t have. In this episode, you’ll learn why we do that, and how we can start falling for people we CAN have. — Have you ever fallen for someone who was in a relationship, married, lived too far away — someone who was not available for a relationship? Listen to this episode with my son, Max, and learn why we fall for people we can’t have. EP 677: Why We Fall For People We Can’t Have Why We Fall For People We Can’t Have We perceive what we can’t have as having more value We like the challenge of trying to chase what we can’t get We have self esteem or trust issues We have fear of commitment We didn’t expect things to be like this because they gave us all the right signals We convinced ourselves this person was our only or best option How to avoid falling for people you can’t have Stop believing it’s the only person you can have Get the confidence and social skills to meet people anywhere Open up all your options, so you stop focusing o...
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