Looking For Love in All the Wrong Places

Are you looking for love in all the wrong places? My podcast guest, Venus Castleberg, was stuck in unhealthy patterns until she did this…

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Venus Castleberg is the author of Here to Forever: Finally Free to Be Me, a story that explores looking for love in all the wrong places. From a belief system that she was flawed and broken to discovering how to like herself, Venus delivers the tools and processes to create something greater. A seasoned entrepreneur, holistic healthcare practitioner and coach, Venus is devoted to a life of joyful possibility. 

In this episode of Last First Date Radio:

  • Why finding ‘the one’ is not the real goal
  • How to stop looking for love in all the wrong places
  • The steps to attracting in a healthy partnership
  • What to do if you’re in a relationship that’s toxic to you

EP 488: Venus Castleberg – Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places

Why did you write this book? 

I grew up thinking that finding ‘the one’ was the goal. There was only one person for me. I looked for love in all the wrong places. I looked to my friendships, family, religion, and romantic relationships to feel whole. I felt broken. I figured if I found the right relationship, I’d feel whole. I realized the person I needed to look for was ME, not outside of me. Then, I realized there were probably a lot of other people who might feel the same way. 

What has been the most valuable lesson you’ve learned about relationships and love?

I’m in partnership now, but it came after being at peace with myself. It adds to my life. One of the things I’ve learned has been letting go of judgment, that a person has to show up a certain way, look a certain way, etc. I stopped judging me, which helped me stop judging others. 

What helped you break the cycle of unhealthy relationships?

We date the same person over and over without realizing it. If what he looks like or does for a living matters, my question was ‘will this create greater?’ I knew my partner for a long time, but hadn’t considered him as a partner. We started hanging out as friends. What changed for me was that we laughed together. I had joy and ease. We have fun together and enjoy each other’s company. We’ve been together for four years. 

What got me over the judgments was what I was grateful for. I think about that everyday and express it daily. 

Many of our listeners are looking for love in all the wrong places. How can they create a healthy loving partnership?

The pivotal point for me was being in a verbally abusive relationship. That relationship was the first time I thought I can’t leave the relationship until I change this, or I’ll relive this. I took the 5 elements of intimacy from Access Consciousness and applied them to myself to work on myself during the relationship. 

  1. Honor – I had my own back
  2. Trust – I trusted myself
  3. Gratitude – I was grateful for myself
  4. Vulnerability – I was vulnerable with myself
  5. Allowance – I saw everything with curiosity, that it’s just a point of view, not good or bad

What’s your final advice for anyone who wants to go on their last first date?

If you’re in an unhealthy relationship, and friends tell you they’re concerned, don’t defend the person. Know they have you back, so go away, go for a drive, and ask yourself, “Is this really working for me? Is this relationship I’d like to have?” It has to work for you. 

Figure out your seven must-haves that you can’t live without. Everything else, compromise on. 

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