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[VIDEO] Can Attraction Grow?

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The age old question – can attraction grow? In this video, you’ll discover what to do when the attraction isn’t strong at first. — Can attraction grow? You might have dated men where the ‘it’ factor wasn’t there. They were kind, smart, and good looking, but there were no butterflies. Do you continue dating men like this and hope attraction will grow? In this video, you’ll learn how attraction can grow and what’s necessary to make that happen. Can Attraction Grow? Most of us think we need instant chemistry From the time we’re young, we’re fed the belief that romance is filled with butterflies and rainbows. He sees her from across the room, and there’s fairy dust and music playing in the background. They are immediately attracted. He rescues her on his white horse, and they live happily ever after. Yeah, that almost never happens in real life. And if some version of that story does happen, it usually burns out quickly. That’s because it’s usually lust or anxiety giving you ...

Dating With An Anxious Attachment Style

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If you’re dating with an anxious attachment style, listen to this episode with Jessica Baum. You’ll learn helpful tips for dating success. — Jessica Baum is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) who supports those struggling with anxiety, relationship conflict, marital issues, and codependent relationships. She’s the author of the upcoming book, Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love , to be published in June 2022, available for preorder now. Jessica is the founder of the Relationship Institute of Palm Beach, a group practice providing couples therapy, family counseling, and addiction therapy in south Florida since 2016, the Self-full® Method, and her sister company, Be Self-full . I n this episode of Last First Date Radio: Tools to use when triggered in a relationship How to become aware of repeating patterns of low self-worth and abandonment How our nervous system impacts our relationships and is unconsciously driving our behavior Healthy chemistry ...

Breaking Unhealthy Dating Patterns

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If you have unhealthy dating patterns, watch this video. Learn tips to help you break toxic patterns and attract lasting love. — Do you keep dating the same person with a different face? If you feel stuck in a cycle of unhealthy dating patterns, the tips in this video will help you begin to break those patterns and attract healthier relationships. Breaking Unhealthy Dating Patterns 1. Recognize the signs of unhealthy dating patterns Any type of abuse Dishonesty Controlling behavior Avoidance Codependent behavior 2. Discover where these patterns originated Family blueprint Feels familiar Don’t feel worthy 3. Heal past wounds Rejection Shame Traumatic experiences 4. Learn healthy relationship skills Improve communication skills Regulate your emotions Set boundaries 5. Be picky about the right things Character Values Lifestyle Worldview 6. Be kind to yourself and the people you date Take care of your needs first Process emotions Practice sel...

Codependency, Love Addiction, and Toxic Relationships

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My podcast guest is Sherry Gaba, an expert on love addiction, codependency, and toxic relationships. Listen to this important episode! — Sherry Gaba, LCSW , is a psychotherapist and life coach who specializes in trauma, codependency, love addiction, and toxic relationships. She’s the author of the best selling book, “Love Smacked: How to Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency to Find Everlasting Love”. She’s the go-to expert on VH1’s Celebrity Rehab with Dr. Drew Pinsky. Sherry is also the host of The Love Fix Podcast and a Social Media Influencer on IG with over 75,000 followers at @codependencycurious . In this episode of Last First Date Radio: What is love addiction? What does trauma have to do with picking toxic relationships? How do you know if you are in a toxic relationship? Why do we get addicted to toxic relationships? How do we overcome our addiction to toxic relationships? EP 501: Sherry Gaba – Codependency, Love Addiction, and Toxic Relati...

Why Unconditional Love Can Be Toxic

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Experts tell us we should have unconditional love in our romantic relationships. I believe that’s a really bad idea. Here’s why… — We’re told to aim for unconditional love and to accept our romantic partners as they are. In this video, I share why I think unconditional love can be toxic, and what we can aim for instead. Unconditional love sounds beautiful. Many experts say it’s the ideal, the golden ticket to love someone unconditionally, and accept them with all their flaws.  I do believe it’s important to choose a partner who has your must-haves and no deal breakers. Once you accept that this is the person you want to be with, accept them for who they are and don’t try to change them. But, there’s a big difference between that and unconditional love.  I believe unconditional love is a myth, and it’s harmful to believe it’s attainable. Here’s the problem: If we accept and love our partners unconditionally, it means they don’t have to meet any conditions. It ...

How AnneLena Found Love Online

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AnneLena, a widow, struggled with online dating until she took my course. A month later, she found love online. Listen to her story here. — Learn how AnneLena found love online. She was widowed seven years ago. When her husband tragically died from cancer, she had just turned fifty, had six teens at home, and she didn’t think would ever find love again. When she was ready to date again 18 months later, it was hard. Then came COVID in 2020, and things got harder. AnneLena signed up for my course, How to Find Love Online During the Pandemic , and a month later, she found love online. Here’s their story. Last First Date Radio Join Sandy Weiner, THE renowned dating and relationship coach for women over 40, for this inspirational show about attracting and sustaining healthy relationships in midlife. Listen to interviews with top experts and cutting edge authors, plus live coaching! Don’t you want to go on your LAST FIRST DATE? lastfirstdate.com EP 500: AnneLen...

Signs You May Be Codependent

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Check out these signs of codependent behavior. If they sound like you, watch this video and learn how to begin to heal. — When you’re dating, do you tend to put your partner’s needs before your own? You may be behaving in codependent ways. Recognizing the signs of codependent behavior is the first step towards having healthier relationships. Signs You May Be Codependent What is codependency? Codependency refers to any enmeshed relationship in which one person believes they need to tend to the other person’s needs, while losing their own sense of autonomy. Codependent behavior generally involves: Self-sacrifice Focusing on others first A need for control Difficulty expressing emotions and setting boundaries A person with codependent behavior might experience: Trust issues with themselves and others The desire to fix/save people to feel needed Putting others’ needs before their own Problems with confrontation and decision-making Doing anything it takes to keep r...

Finding the Gift in Heartbreak

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My podcast guest, Emily Pereira, helps women find the gift in heartbreak. If you’ve ever been heartbroken, listen to this episode! — Emily Pereira is an international retreat leader, bestselling author of The Quest, and women’s coach specializing in helping women call in epic love. She has reached over 5 million people worldwide, with speaking engagements at Wanderlust, Summit Outside, and Spotify.  In this episode of Last First Date Radio: A shift in perspective that can help someone heal from a broken heart The gift in heartbreak What to do when a breakup includes infidelity How to increase self-worth following a breakup The keys to finding lasting love EP 499: Emily Pereira – Finding the Gift in Heartbreak Last First Date Radio Join Sandy Weiner, THE renowned dating and relationship coach for women over 40, for this inspirational show about attracting and sustaining healthy relationships in midlife. Listen to interviews with top experts and cutting edge a...

Ghosted? How to Get Closure

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If you’ve been ghosted, it’s painful. In this video, you’ll learn how to get closure when you didn’t get it from the person you’ve dated. — Have you ever been ghosted? Whether it’s after a few dates or a few months, ghosting is very painful, because the person you were dating abruptly cuts off all contact with you.  Ghosting doesn’t leave you with any closure. In this video, you’ll learn how to get closure when the person you’re dating doesn’t allow for it.  Ghosted? How to Get Closure Why we need closure It’s important to process the grief and pain of the rejection we feel and the relationship ending in order to be able to move forward in the future to create healthier relationships.  Why is ghosting so painful? When you get ghosted, you and your love interest haven’t been able to discuss why the relationship didn’t work out. Maybe the timing was wrong. Maybe there were differences that couldn’t be overcome.  When you don’t have closure, you create ...