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How ChatGPT Can Improve Your Dating Success

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Can ChatGPT help you find love? In this video, you’ll learn several ways chat bots can help improve your dating success. Have you tried using artificial intelligence or chatbots to improve your ability to find love online? In this video, I’ll show you how ChatGPT can help improve your dating success. What is ChatGPT? For anyone who’s unfamiliar, ChatGPT is a general-purpose chatbot that uses artificial intelligence to generate text after a user enters a prompt. I decided to try it first with my online dating profile. I entered a list of what I love and who I am, and some of the character traits of the man I’m looking for. The prompt I gave to ChatGPT for writing my online profile Things that make me happy: ✓ Daily 5-mile walks ✓ Playing Words With Friends and Wordle ✓ Reading real books vs electronic ones ✓ Doing anything creative: painting, drawing, writing ✓ Cooking (and eating) healthy delicious foods like angel hair pasta with homemade pesto from my basil plan...

How to Get Unstuck in Your Love Life

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My good friend and colleague, Ken Page, interviewed me about how to get unstuck in your love life. Listen here! — In this bonus episode, I was honored to be interviewed by Ken Page, L.C.S.W., a New York based psychotherapist, lecturer and author of Deeper Dating: How to Drop the Games of Seduction and Discover the Power of Intimacy . A dynamic and inspiring speaker, he has led hundreds of workshops on intimacy and spirituality for thousands of participants of all ages, backgrounds and sexual orientations. He and his work have been featured in  O, The Oprah Magazine ,  Life Magazine ,  The New York Times , WPIX-TV Morning News,  The Advocate ,  Time Out New York ,  The Discovery Channel , and in many other places. Ken founded Deeper Dating ( ⁠www.Deeperdating.com⁠ ), a successful workshop and meeting event for single people committed to deeper values. He’s also the host of the Deeper Dating Podcast. In this episode of Last First Date Radio, we di...

5 Ways to Let Go of Your Need to Control In Dating

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How do you let go of your need to control when you’re dating or in a relationship? Here are my top 5 tips! — Why do we feel a need to control in dating and relationships? There are a few reasons: 1. We’re afraid of what will happen if we let go (we’ll lose ourselves, get hurt, be disrespected). 2. We’re attached to an outcome we  think   is best  for us (which closes us off to what’s  actually   better  for us). In this video, you’ll discover why it’s important to let go of our need to control and how to do it! Why let go of control? Control is about fast forwarding to the future or rewinding to the past. When we let go of trying to control the outcome, we’re present and feel calmer and more at peace. We’re less guarded and more open to the men we date. We connect more deeply and have more authentic relationships. 5 Ways to Let Go of Your Need to Control In Dating 1. Dating is meant to be about discovery 2. We can’t control others 3. Amazing...

A Midlife Widow’s Search for Love

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Listen to this episode of Last First Date Radio with Debbie Weiss, as she reveals a midlife widow’s search for love. — Debbie Weiss is the author of Available As Is: A Midlife Widow’s Search for Love . A former lawyer, she has essays published in the New York Times’ Modern Love column among other places. She’s proudest of getting an MFA at 56. She lives in Benicia, CA with her second life partner, Randal. In this episode of Last First Date Radio: How she began a widow’s search for love after loss What it was like to start dating as a 50 year old widow who hadn’t dated since she was 16 The biggest problem with dating over 50 How she met her second life partner EP 553: Debbie Weiss – A Midlife Widow’s Search for Love Last First Date Radio Dating and relationships don’t have to be so complicated! Join Sandy Weiner, THE dating and relationship coach for women over 40, for this inspirational show about attracting and sustaining healthy relationships. You’ll learn t...

5 Surprising Benefits of Rejection 

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When someone rejects you, it feels terrible at first, but there are also surprising benefits of rejection. Here are my top 5! — What are the benefits of rejection? If you’ve ever felt the sting of someone rejecting you after a first date or at the end of a relationship, it’s hard to see the benefits. In this video, I’m sharing my top five, so you can see rejection as redirection, reflection, and protection! 5 Surprising Benefits of Rejection   What can you learn from rejection? These are the key lessons outlined in the video: 1. Rejection promotes motivation: You might feel cast out or discarded after someone ‘rejects’ you. Often, our highest motivation comes from our deepest pain. We discover what values were important to us after rejection — respect? communication? kindness? These are important motivators as you move on to the next person you date. 2. Rejection provides empathy: When we feel the sting of rejection, we can gain more empathy for the people we date....

How to Recover from a Breakup

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My podcast guest, Tal Yardeni, shares her best tips on how to recover from a breakup. If you’ve ever had a breakup, listen in! — Tal Yardeni is known as the breakup recovery coach. She’s the creator of The Breakup To Badass Formula , which helps women let go of their ex, learn to love themselves more, and get ready for their best relationship. Having gone through and healed from her own difficult breakup, she’s passionate about helping women recover from heartbreak. In this episode of Last First Date Radio: Why self love as we know it is BS, and why true self love is crucial to healing from heartbreak What Rom Coms have taught us about our self worth, and how to break the cycle of placing your worth in relationships The #1 thing that keeps you from moving on, and what you can do about it Why no contact is absolutely necessary to moving on Why you should put dating on hold while you heal from a breakup and when is it okay to get back out there again. EP 552: Tal Yardeni –...

Finding Hope When Dating Gets You Down

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If you struggle with finding hope when dating feels like an endless loop of disappointment, I’ve got you covered! — After a breakup or a string of bad dates (or no dates at all), dating can get you down. Finding hope can feel almost impossible at times. Here are my best tips for staying optimistic on your journey to finding someone special who brings a smile to your face and adds value to your life. NOTE: I wrote this in 2012, a few years after starting my coaching practice when I was still seeing clients in my home office instead of virtually on Zoom. I was inspired by an episode of Oprah, which was still on network TV. She featured Michael J. Fox shortly after his Parkinson’s diagnosis. Much of what I wrote then still applies today. Finding Hope When Dating Gets You Down As I sit on my living room couch drinking my latte and luxuriating in a rare and cherished moment of peace, my eyes can’t help but focus on the gashes in the coffee table in front of me. This formerly char...

How to Overcome Dating Despair

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Dating despair is common, especially if you’ve been dating for a while without success. In this video, I share 5 helpful tips. If you’ve ever experienced dating despair, you know how devastating it can feel. Will you ever meet your match? Why do the people you don’t like want to date you, and the people you do like don’t? Dating can be exhausting, and it can adversely affect your self-worth. In this video, you’ll learn what to do about dating despair so you can restore hope. How to Overcome Dating Despair Why Dating Can be Exhausting 1. Unrealistic expectations 2. Unhealthy attraction 3. Too much choice How to Be More Positive And Overcome Dating Despair 1. Take a break when you need it 2. Have a life outside of dating 3. Manage your expectations 4. Make dating fun again 5. Focus on the long game  If you practice these five steps, you’ll be more energized, more hopeful, and less focused on the outcome of each date. Take breaks when you need to, but remember, it’...

Dating Do’s and Don’ts From a Single Divorced Dad

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As a divorced dad of two adult daughters, podcast host Jeff Kimes is here to share the good, the bad, and the ugly about the dating scene! — Jeff Kimes is a single divorced dad of two college-age girls. He’s in his 50s and dating in Denver, Colorado. Jeff is the host of the podcast Dating Daze, where he and his guests talk about sex, love, breakups, divorce, and everything related to dating. In this episode of Last First Date Radio: What is dating in Denver like for post-divorce midlife singles?  What are some dating dos and don’ts for divorced single dads? Are dating apps a good way for single dads over 40 to meet their match? What are some tips to make dating in midlife more successful? How long should a woman wait to sleep with someone? Last First Date Radio Dating and relationships don’t have to be so complicated! Join Sandy Weiner, THE dating and relationship coach for women over 40, for this inspirational show about attracting and sustaining healthy r...

3 Habits That Are Keeping You Stuck

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You may not be aware that these three habits are keeping you stuck. Learn how to turn them around to have the life and love you want. — “I’m worried about what might happen if I say no.” “I wish I was wealthier/smarter/sexier/funnier.” “Why do these bad things always happen to me?” If you’ve ever found yourself saying anything like those three statements, you may have some habits that are keeping you stuck in life and love. In this video, I reveal these three habits and what you can do to turn them around and live a life of empowerment, peace, and joy. 3 Habits That Are Keeping You Stuck Habit #1: We focus on the PAST and FUTURE, and have trouble staying PRESENT. When we ruminate on the past and project what might happen in the future, we waste precious energy. The past is history and we can’t change it, but we can learn from it and make amends in the present. The future hasn’t happened yet, but our actions today will determine what happens in the future. So, try and stay ...