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How to Transform Anxious Attachment into Secure Attachment

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How do you transform anxious attachment into secure attachment? My guest, Trevor Hanson, has a 5-step framework that will help you heal. — Trevor Hanson is an internationally recognized coach and therapist specializing in transforming anxious attachment into secure relationships. After overcoming his own struggles, he left Tesla to pursue his passion for healing. With a master’s in Marriage and Family Therapy, he’s helped thousands globally through The Art of Healing and his signature method, “The Secure-Self Journey.” In this episode: The 4 essential elements to healing anxious attachment that most people miss. The key mindset shift that most people overlook when trying to become secure. A look at the structured plan Trevor uses to help clients develop a secure attachment. A clear direction on how to start healing. A powerful approach for creating self-trust, confidence, and safety within yourself. How to take the next steps in your journey to healing anxious attachment. ...

Avoid These 7 Beta Behaviors That Instantly Kill Attraction

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Ever been mid-conversation with a woman, thought you were killing it… …and then watched her go cold faster than your Wi-Fi in a thunderstorm? Yeah, you’re not alone. The truth is, it’s not your looks, your car, or even your opening line that’s killing attraction. It’s what you subconsciously do after you meet her—the beta behaviors that instantly suck the excitement out of the room. In this post, you’ll learn how to avoid the 7 beta behaviors that instantly kill attraction , so you can finally keep her hooked and wanting more. Because at the end of the day, women aren’t just attracted to what you look like. They’re drawn to who you are —and how you carry yourself. Let’s jump in. Why Attraction Isn’t Just About Looks Sure, looks help you get your foot in the door. But what keeps her interested—what makes her feel that primal pull toward you—is how you make her feel emotionally. Confidence. Direction. Certainty. If you’re showing weak, needy, beta behavior—even if you...

How to Become Sexually Empowered

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How do you become sexually empowered? My guest, Lauren Elise Rogers, a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator, guides us to be empowered! — How do you become sexually empowered? My podcast guest, Lauren Elise Rogers, is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy & Relationship Coach Her holistic and embodied approach is deeply rooted in her own pain-to-purpose journey. Lauren brings an empathetic and non-judgmental approach, offering practical tools that empower her clients to take ownership of their pleasure and grow in confidence and connection. She invites individuals and couples to navigate complex topics like long-term partnerships, consensual non-monogamy, life transitions, purity culture and LGBTQIA+ issues. In this episode: What is empowered and authentic sex? How to build an empowered and authentic sex life How to understand our sexual needs and desires EP 657: Lauren Elise Rogers – How to Become Sexually Empowered How would you define empow...

How to Attract Emotionally Available Men After 50

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If you want to attract emotionally available men, here are the steps to take – what to do and what NOT to do! — Dating after 50 can feel like a whole new world—and not always in the best way. You may have heard (or thought), “All the good ones are taken,” or “Men my age just want younger women.” But here’s the truth: emotionally available, mature men do exist. And attracting them has more to do with your mindset, boundaries, and clarity than luck. If you’re ready for your last first date—with someone who shows up, communicates clearly, and wants real connection—this is for you. How to Attract Emotionally Available Men After 50 What Is Emotional Availability, Anyway? Emotionally available men: Can talk openly about their feelings Are comfortable with vulnerability Take accountability for their actions Are willing to work through conflict Want emotional intimacy—not just companionship or sex If you’ve dated men who shut down, ghost, love-bomb, or avoid commitment,...

How to Break Barriers in Neurodiverse Relationships

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How do you break barriers in neurodiverse relationships? Dr. Matt Zakreski helps neurodivergent people have healthier relationships! — Dr. Matt Zakreski, PsyD, is a professional speaker and clinical psychologist who specializes in working with neurodivergent folks. He has spoken more than 400 times on stages and podcasts about supporting neurodivergent people in all walks of life. Dr. Matt specializes in taking knowledge of the brain, human behavior, and clinical psychology and making that accessible and practical for people to improve their lives. In this episode of Last First Date Radio: A crash course in neurodiversity and how it impacts dating How to break barriers in neurodiverse relationships The challenges neurodiverse folks face when dating How to navigate conflict and cultivate closeness How to apply brain science to build stronger relationship EP 656: Dr. Matt Zakreski – Breaking Barriers in Neurodiverse Relationships What is neurodiversity? It’s the word for...

When Joking In a Relationship Becomes Hurtful

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Joking in a relationship can be tricky, especially when you first start dating someone. When is teasing playful and when is it hurtful? — You’re on a first date and everything seems to be going well, until your date says something that you find hurtful. What do you do? Do you say something, even though it’s awkward? Do you stay quiet? Is this a dealbreaker? Following is a breakdown of 5 types of humor in dating and relationships, and what to do when someone’s joke hurts or offends you. When Joking In a Relationship Becomes Hurtful 5 Types of Joking in a Relationship That Can Hurt #1. Passive-aggressive comments.  Sarcasm and passive-aggressive humor are an indirect way to express feelings. It can be very confusing and hurtful to be on the receiving end of sarcastic comments. #2. Humor as an excuse.  When someone says, “I was only joking” to cover up being wrong, their humor is an avoidance of responsibility. #3. Mocking or making fun of others.  Making fun...

How to Stop Losing Yourself in Relationships

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If you want to stop losing yourself in relationships, listen to this episode with couples therapists, Robin Temple & Michael Moore. — Stop losing yourself in relationships! Married for over thirty years, Robin Temple and Michael Moore can help you have healthier relationships. They have led workshops and retreats for more than 1,500 couples and have trained dozens of leaders in couples work. They provide retreats and coaching that delivers positive change quickly and predictably, providing couples with surprisingly rapid improvements in understanding and happiness. In this episode of Last First Date Radio: What couples need to know to be happy together Why gratitude is so powerful for couples and a simple, effective way to practice it every day What it takes for real listening to occur How to encourage someone to speak up with confidence that their message will get through… without resistance or blow-back What is the “Art of the Apology,” and how can it repair hurts or ...

How to Stop Falling in Love Quickly

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If you’re prone to falling in love quickly, watch this video. You’ll learn how to slow down and choose the right match for you. — Falling in love quickly can feel exciting, like you’ve finally found your match. And then, when you become physically intimate, your brain begins to release feel-good chemicals like dopamine, oxytocin, and endorphins. You become infatuated and begin to obsess over this new person in your life. Combine that with your romantic ideas about love, and you’re head over heels in love. But are you really in love? If you tend to fall in love quickly, it’s probably affecting your ability to enter into healthy relationships. Here are five ways to slow down the dating process so you can balance your heart and head and find a healthy relationship. 5 Ways to to Stop Falling in Love Quickly 1) Create a list of must-haves in a partner. It’s important to be mindful of the qualities you would like to find in a partner. Creating a simple must-have checklist can h...

 The Surprising Reasons Why People Cheat

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Want to know why people cheat? My podcast guest, Paul Keable, the Chief Strategy Officer of Ashley Madison, shares insights on cheating that may surprise you. — Why do people cheat? As Chief Strategy Officer of Ashley Madison, Paul Keable oversees the strategic direction of the dating site, Ashley Madison, emphasizing discretion, authenticity, and innovation within the dating industry. Under his leadership, the platform has implemented initiatives such as user verification through government IDs to combat fraudulent activity and build trust among members. As the platform continues to evolve, Keable’s insights remain central to its ability to adapt and resonate with its growing global user base. In this episode: Why do people cheat? What constitutes cheating in a relationship? How can cheating affect mental health? How can affairs save marriages? Are all affairs equal? What is a modern relationship and what are the rules of one? Should your affair remain a secret? EP 65...