How to Build Extraordinary Relationships By Design – Not By Chance

extraordinary relationships

Would you like to be in an extraordinary relationship? In this episode, learn how to build them by design, not by chance.

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Learn how to build extraordinary relationships! Jena Jake is a Compatibility Strategist, speaker, and author who helps successful professionals stop choosing relationships by chance and start creating them by design. Through her signature Love Smarter™ methodology, she helps clients identify true compatibility, break unhealthy patterns, and build extraordinary relationships rooted in alignment—not luck.

In this episode:

  • The difference between chemistry and compatibility
  • Why we attach to certain types
  • How do we become aligned with the right people
  • How to set boundaries in relationships from the start
  • How to become the person you want to meet

EP 726: Jena Jake – Building Extraordinary Relationships By Design, Not By Chance

Highlights of this episode:

Chemistry, compatibility & core coaching concepts

  • Chemistry = familiarity shaped by childhood patterns; not always healthy.
  • Compatibility = alignment with your values, needs, boundaries and long-term life vision.
  • Key shift: develop a loving relationship with yourself first; don’t rely on a partner for validation.
  • “Be the love” — generating love internally changes how others reflect love back.
  • Healthy chemistry = awareness + boundaries + alignment.

Assessment-driven coaching & practical steps

  • Jena’s approach: personality assessments + the PAWS method (pattern, attachment, wounds, standard/status quo) to identify repeating dating patterns.
  • Pre-work: rewire patterns, define values/needs, practice boundaries (Jenna’s “velvet rope” metaphor).
  • Dating work: measure prospects against assessment results; catch red flags early (before strong attachment).
  • Maintenance: practice new standards; surround yourself with people who model healthy treatment to make new behavior familiar.
  • Outcome: a consciously built “alone” (chosen life) versus a fearful, reactive alone.

Boundaries, recovery & real-life examples

  • Boundary practice often starts with family; protects sanity and reinforces self-respect.
  • Rapid attraction/sex increases risk of premature attachment; recommended to delay until alignment is clearer.
  • Becoming healthier narrows the dating pool but increases discernment and long-term fit.
  • Personal examples: Jenna and Sandy described post-divorce boundary-setting and how ex-partners often repeat old patterns.

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